No more blaming games!

Along with writing my books I am also trying to guide people or prevent them from mistakes. When people come to me with their problems I listen and advise.This advice was given to one of the females and might be useful for all of you . Praying means we pray from heart and we have a strong faith.We believe and we are patient. Also we get up and make every step to change our lives or get out from negative situations. But not day dreaming and blaming God for our own choices, mistakes or laziness. We try every avenue and keep having a faith and hope. At the same time learning from old mistakes and not repeating them. You are now vulnerable and feel lonely. In this condition you would attract any jerk that might pretend to be nice just to trap you. Now you should not really worry about getting a man but making sure that your child is fine and you are healed. If you meet another jerk now you might blame God again for your own choice.However ,it would be your fault, not His. Nothing wrong with wanting someone to love you. But if you cannot love yourself what kind love would you attract? Your life is now like a jigsaw puzzle. Many pieces are missing. Put them together become full. Learn to fly like a bird and free yourself of your past and hurts. First learn to love and respect yourself, find a peace, forgiveness and inner healing. Make sure that you and your child are fine. When you fit all pieces of jigsaw puzzle together you would attract a good man. The last advice stick to God but not to anger or bitterness and blaming games.

Holy spirit come into our lives

ABUSE AND VICTIMIZATION

There are those who fail to comprehend the true meaning not only behind freedom, but also behind independence. However, neither concept does justice to the experience of victims of abuse--for instance, the factors fueling the victims' respective decision-making process, together with their emotions when a controlling partner steals this freedom and independence from them. Defying logic, some even argue that a bully is justified to be angered by a partner as the reason that such a spouse becomes the victim. Absolutely rubbish! Such misconceptions are not surprising since those who remain ignorant do not believe in God's grace. Moreover, they lack a wealth of life experiences and the wisdom to appreciate the negative experiences of others. Instead, they persist in passing judgment by conveying faulty advice based on their own fanatic religious beliefs as well as distorted and extreme views. According to Maslow's hierarchy, people have five important needs: self-actualization, esteem, a sense of belonging and love, safety and security, and psychological factors. Self-actualization allows one to achieve a potential. Esteem gives one a sense of accomplishment and respect. A sense of belonging and love revolve around giving love and feeling loved, since one desires to participate in a meaningful activity or in an organized group. Safety is just that: the need for security. Psychological needs include food, water, rest, and warmth. In conclusion, all of these needs are significant and key to human life. The goal of entering into any relationship involves having one's needs met, along with satisfying a spouse's needs. In fact, the primary purpose of marriage remains to spend the rest of one's life together with a loved one. Indeed, both parties ought to give and not just take, supporting one another both in good times and in times of illness, the very essence of the oath of marriage. Moreover, each relationship must be founded on respect, love, and understanding. Partners ought to learn to respect the needs of the other one, not only refraining from exerting control and thereby limiting the other person's life, but also demonstrating a willingness to make sacrifices. However, in any relationship when one half of the partnership becomes abusive, the hierarchy of needs is shattered at the expense of the victim. Under such circumstances, the dominant and abusive spouse has a singular goal in satisfying his or her needs exclusively. Thus, the victim’s existence is entirely caged, with the needs for love, respect, inclusiveness, and self-actualization remaining unaddressed. The focus is completely governed by the bully’s needs for absolute control and manipulation, with the victim treated with utter disrespect, feeling unloved and at times not even permitted to study or work. With such a confined structure, the needs for belonging and for self-actualization lapse into disrepair and disregard. In other circumstances, the weaker and submissive partner is compelled to feel as if he or she is completely worthless, with a mere existence absolutely controlled financially through the imposition of strict limits. Often, the abuser depicts the victim as useless like junk thrown into the trash. It should be of no surprise that most victims yearn for freedom and independence according to the following principles: • Leading one’s daily life by doing what one pleases, not what is expected • Pursuing one’s goals without fear of angry reprisal from the abusive partner • The satisfaction and ability to be oneself • Planning activities that nurture emotional development If we define a partnership in terms of traditional marriage, indeed sharing life together with mutual love and patience are mandatory. Nonetheless, each spouse must focus on sacrifices without making these in a forced fashion but only by the person’s choice alone. However, it is always the case that nothing in this world can justify a bully’s misconduct because God has not brought two human beings together merely for one to make the other’s life miserable, let alone engage in unremitting and ceaseless disrespect and vulgarity. In this way, if one spouse makes the conscious choice to remain abusive, the other should not be blamed for his or her actions. After all, God gave us the notion of will such that if one half of a partnership exercises it inappropriately and even to an extreme, the other half certainly ought not to be blamed or accused. God always expects us to exert labor within a marriage, and where suitable making sacrifices for the sake of the family. The best course of action remains confronting your partner about precisely how he or she denigrates and debases you emotionally, demanding that this unnecessary, unwelcome, unwanted, and unwarranted behavior cease immediately and change for the better. Such change might include healing through counseling, always allowing space for your partner to adapt and transform. While it remains important to love by forgiving, starting over, accepting your spouse’s faults, and taking time to listen, one must never settle on viewing abusive tendencies as acceptable or as a mere fault. Bear in mind that any spouse willingly chooses his or her actions. Yet, at times, such lashing out is a manifestation of the trigger of inner turmoil, in which case couples can work together to avoid these triggers by finding forgiveness with a desire to start over through change. Nonetheless, in the end, if the victim chooses to leave and walk away, this is not a sign that he or she does not love the other. It simply signifies that the victim has had enough and is saying “NO!” because of not only becoming exhausted at the persistent abuse, but also desiring to stand up for one’s rights by gaining respect in seeking to be treated as a fellow human being rather than as some sort of beast imprisoned at the local zoo. Always remember that after a defined sense of time when the abusive spouse does not change, you have two options: either to carry the cross that God expects from all of us or to exit your negative situation and thrust it behind you well into the past by starting life anew, especially if the negativity affects children. At the end of the day, we humans must always put children’s needs first and foremost, always protecting them while at the same time doing what is best both for their emotional needs and for the parent’s own mental health and spiritual development. In order to educate,entertain,give a hope and inspire I wrote Broken Chains.This books is not only for females but also for males. So please share this article and the book if you think it can help others. Do not forget to review and rate the book.Your feedback make a big difference. I always want to know what people think about my wriitngs. Broken Chains As a moving piece of motivational fiction, at the heart of Broken Chains lies the core inspirational issue: How can one best live with a deep sense of inner freedom and independence? In setting up an intriguing novel of romance and family saga, the author starts with an encounter between the parents of the protagonist that leads to a brief affair and an unwanted pregnancy. Esmira, the mother, raises her daughter alone under difficult circumstances. Once an adult, Silvana must confront the horrors of abusive relationships on her own. This is not only a page turner that serves as fundamental self-help to its readers, but also a deeply moving tale of one Azerbaijani woman's struggle to avoid the same fate that befell her mother. She flees Azerbaijan to an uncertain future. In addition, the novel serves as a gripping story of making sacrifices, overcoming suffering, finding true love, dealing with family conflicts, coping with inhumanity, finding redemption, and attaining liberty. Finally, this intriguing tale introduces readers to the exotic country of Azerbaijan, geographically located between spheres. https://www.amazon.com/Broken-Chains-Emiliya-Ahmadova-ebook/dp/B01N9YR6ZK

Books by Emiliya

Broken Chains

As a moving piece of motivational fiction, at the heart of Broken Chains lies the core inspirational issue: How can one best live with a deep sense of inner freedom and independence? In setting up an intriguing novel of romance and family saga, the author starts with an encounter between the
parents of the protagonist that leads to a brief affair and an unwanted pregnancy. Esmira, the mother, raises her daughter alone under difficult circumstances. Once an adult, Silvana must confront the horrors of abusive relationships on her own. This is not only a page turner that serves as fundamental self-help to its readers, but also a deeply moving tale of one Azerbaijani woman's struggle to avoid the same fate that befell her mother. She flees Azerbaijan to an uncertain future. In addition, the novel serves as a gripping story of making sacrifices, overcoming suffering, finding true love, dealing with family conflicts, coping with inhumanity, finding redemption, and attaining liberty. Finally, this intriguing tale introduces readers to the exotic country of Azerbaijan, geographically located between spheres.
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                                                                A Glimpse of the future

When evil forces descend upon and attack your family, you have only two choices: either you can allow it to overpower you and your family or you can choose to overcome this evil and win the battle. A young boy, Ramesh, sees his abusive and alcoholic father hit and killed by a reckless driver, a hideous and overpowering experience for Ramesh that lands him in a coma.

While unconscious, he is witness to a life wasted and promises spurned--the genuine work of Satan. What is even more terrifying is what he hears the demon tell him:

"Ramesh, I am coming for your soul!"

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A Hell For All Seasons

A Hell for All Seasons features seven bone-chilling short stories that span the globe, inviting you to partake in a spine-tingling supernatural adventure that you’ll not soon forget.
Inside you’ll discover what happens when unsuspecting schoolgirls, strait-laced physicians, a swash-buckling cowboy, selfish hypocrites, a drunkard, female medium, and ordinary university students encounter their worst nightmares.

What have they done to spark supernatural phenomena?
Bad choices, bad timing, and bad karma come to haunt them in earth-shattering ways to teach them a much-needed, if not ill-guided lesson, filled with moments of terror, hours of chaos, and years of regret.
Scroll up to buy your copy of this frighteningly good short story horror collection, and be mindful of your actions. You never know when they might come back to haunt you.

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My wisdom quotes

1. One learns of life not from reading books, but through living and experiencing.
2. Those who experience most aspects of life are more knowledgeable than those who only read about them.
 3. The younger generation should listen to their elders, who have lived long enough to gain the wisdom, common sense, and knowledge that the younger lack.
4. Money does not constitute everything, even though it makes life easier. It may give you a huge house or an expensive car, but does it give you peace of mind, joy, or happiness? Can you buy love, friends, or respect?
5. Do not take silence for stupidity, since a wise man avoids confrontation and speaks less. However, in the end, he would surprise us all with perfect and wise speech.
6. Wise people do not make the same mistake twice, while fools never learn from them.
 7. Yes, we must always use our logic minds before making any steps, weighing the pros and the cons of any decision. A fool jumps into the fire without thinking about the consequences.
8. Books are written not only for the love of writing but also to inspire, help, entertain, and share knowledge and gained experience.
9. Life is meaningless if you cannot live it to the fullest.
 10. Sometimes to ascend you should learn to fall or plunge downward.
 11. Life experiences are valuable because they help us to compare, understand, share, guide, and learn.
 12. Wasted time cannot be returned. Hence, do not waste your life trying to prove or argue because you will just end up in unfortunate situations.
13. Not everything that shines is gold. In fact, people wear masks. They might smile in your face but talk about you behind your back.
 14. God is at the center of the universe. Not having God in one’s life is like not having a soul. Even without facts, we just know that things exist. Many trails are left behind to demonstrate that God exists. Things do not just happen without a reason. There is a force that runs everything in the universe. Look at the pattern in the creation of the universe. Listen to miraculous events and the stories of others. Where did they come from?
 15. Would you forget about your pride, dignity, and freedom yet accept abuse or nonsense from someone so as not to lose a comfortable life? Or would you rather lose a comfortable life, struggle, raise your voice, and stand up for your rights to be treated with love and respect? What is better, hunger or allowing someone to abuse and disrespect you? My advice to you is not take abusive rubbish from anyone. Life is too short for that! Stand up for your rights as my female protagonist Silvana does in my novel Broken Chains.
16. Suffering does not go in vain. It gives us needed wisdom and opens our eyes and hearts to many things. Blind people devoid of experience cannot see--hence, they cannot understand the reason nor see truth and compassion.
17. Overconfidence is a sign of ignorance and pride, which is not healthy for the soul!
 18. Those in the younger generation think they know everything, yet they have so much to learn.
19. Different people react differently to the same situations or the same experiences. Something that influences you may not have the same effect on others. Experiences are not egalitarian--hence, their impact will be different on each of you.
20. To understand the human mind or patterns of behavior one must understand human psychology. 21. Nobody knows 100 percent about everything, and that's why life is a learning experience. A job that allows you to learn will have a positive effect on you.
22. Do not forget to use your manners because you are no better than others. Do not greet someone by virtue of social status or job position. Instead, look at their hearts and minds.
23. If you want respect, then earn it and show some to others.
24. If you have money or status, you are a king and people are attracted to you as bees to a hive of honey. If you have neither, even doctors may let you die. Money is like a drug to which some are addicted. People treat you according to your pocket or what can you do for them. Although money opens many doors, keep the main door closed. How can you open the door to paradise if the door to hell cannot be closed any longer?
25. Sometimes it is better to play stupid than trying to prove something to an ignorant fool.
26. Image builders may charm or fool you. They have one goal: to impress you with false images.
27. I know who I am, where I want to be, and who I would like to become. This is a temporary stop just to gain the added experience that would be used for the benefit of others.
28. Life is both a primary experience and a learning tool. We learn to fall and rise. However, not everyone learns their lessons from this process of descent and ascent. Some just keep repeating the same fallacious patterns and cannot rise.
29. I may not speak with you a great deal. Empty talks would not give you anything good. There is so much to be done! Yet, if you need a good ear, I will always listen to you. I will guide, listen to your worries and concerns, and try to help you.
30. Is asking the same questions repeatedly a sign of stupidity, curiosity, self-reliance, or ignorance? Examine a person's personality and you will find out.
31. People expect a great deal of you. Do they give you back anything at all? It is best to live up to God's expectations without losing one’s humility.
32. Beware of the disingenuous pattern of users. They take but never bother to give back.
33. Do not come to me with your sweet talk. I will not buy it. You will not pass my test even if I decide to test you.
34. Don’t shoot arrows of poison, hate, and bitterness out of your mouth. God will not be pleased with you. Beware, otherwise these arrows will shoot back at you.
35. You do not need to visit a shop to buy a doll with a perfect face. Look for the heartless person. You will find your doll there not only with a beautiful face, but also with a heart replaced by a rock. 36. You are hiding behind your mask, and God only knows what is in your heart. Therefore, you cannot disguise your true self.
 37. People wonder why I never follow anyone's advice. The secret remains that I have common sense and know what is right for me after God only. Nonetheless, God knows more than I do.
38. I live my life according to not books but life, which resembles an endless story for your book. In turn, you may write ten books about it.
 39. Before you judge or talk extensively and expansively, put on another person’s shoes. Walk the road along which he has strolled. Live the life that he has lived. Then, you might learn something new.
40. If you cannot see someone else's hard work, you are indeed a blind and ungrateful soul.
 41. If you not have common sense, you will never know about real life. Better not to say anything at all. Everything just goes in one ear and out the other.
42. Your money and social status do not impress me. In fact, you have built a huge castle for yourself, and you walk on the earth like a lost sheep, Godless and unable to build a road to paradise.
 43. People are motivated by money. Indeed, money rules the world. If you have no money, most people pass you by without even saying, hello. How can you let material things instead of love guide you away from God and turn your heart to stone? Is this what you value the most? I must say you are lost!
44. People are following false leaders, ones who are making the rules to suit their own needs, the reason the world finds itself in such chaos.
45. God is a miracle in my life, a joy in my heart, and a pleasure to my eyes. He is not only the one I worship and admire, but also the only path to paradise.
 46. What is God's purpose for us? He wants us to lead our lives and glorify him in everything we do. Stay away from sin and show love to others. In addition, build a road to paradise and follow his will. While I do not have answers to everything and am just making suggestions, God is the one who knows everything, the king of the universe, my saviour, my boss, and the solution to everything.
 47. God gave you such tools as the Bible, guidance, and commandments. What else do you need to understand that he is the one you should follow?
48. I look at this fallen world and become horrified: children around the world are getting abused, women are suffering, and the Zika virus travels around the globe. This world is a mess, and I do not know what is coming next.

Message to a someone who is going through hard times

Hello Stranger. I know that you are in pain and struggling to survive. Your life is not piece of cake and sometimes feeling hopeless you are ready to give up. Life is a jigsaw puzzle with many missing pieces that one must fit together. Life is never easy but you must have a reason or will to fight for your future and for your child's happy life with you. I am here to let you know that you are not 
alone. You have God by your side and he loves you a lot. You are beautiful from inside and outside. You deserve the best and have a good future before you. However, you need to gather all your strength and try to change your life. Learn to love and respect yourself, know your value. In God's eyes you are a diamond. Hence move away from losers. They do not deserve to be around you. Your are much better than them. Be strong and become a winner. You can do it.Now put your hands together and ask God to bless your every effort and forgive you for your mistakes. Ask him to help you to make things right and move forward with hope and faith.I made this card for you!
 With love,
​Emiliya

God's love for us!

At times, we endure trails and tribulations with not only seemingly insurmountable difficulties, but also painful and perplexing dilemmas. Problems can often seem so unbearable that we reach the edge of an abyss and simply give up and relinquish a control over our lives and our destiny. In addition, when we become disappointed or hurt, we might become reactive and turn around and blame God or others around us for our misfortunes and wonder why God did not come to our aid or prevent this sensation of ill will enveloping us.   Negativity or disappointments that we face augment this seething anger within us. When emotional pain increases,  this builds resentment and interrupts our spiritual development, which in turn makes happiness seem unattainable.
 
Yet, we should realize that sometimes bad things happen to us in life for a good reason. For instance, you may get divorced and later you may meet someone better.  In that way, your divorce will open the door for a wonderful relationship and propel you forward into the future. God never takes leave of someone and never intends for that person to suffer. He loves us without hesitation yet allows us to suffer not only so we learn to rely on a God, but also so we become better persons and thereby gain the knowledge that we can use to help others. Faith and hope helps us to pass through trying times. Prayers are always heard and God answers, but only in his own time. However, for prayers to be answered, you need to have firm faith and endure, so that your wishes and hopes are answered. In this way, if you have any problems in your life, continue praying every day and believe that good things will eventually enter your life.

Just remember: no matter how hurt you are or disappointed, do not allow yourself to relinquish your faith in God. Believe in yourself, and believe in a God. Faith and a positive attitude and outlook are the keys to success.  Stop crying or blaming others for your problems. .Such complaints cause you to dwell on negativity and cause a swell of negative energy that can envelope you. Hence, forgive those who hurt you, and pray and take on activities to turn around and work toward solving your problems.

Do the following: write down the names of the people that hurt you on a piece of paper. Then write: "I forgive you for everything that you have done to me.” Finally, burn the paper and throw the ashes away. Forgiveness will help you heal and expunge your anger.
 
The following is a good daily prayer. For those who are not Christians, my advice is to say our own prayers as they relate to your own religion and you will get the same results. With faith, hope, and persistence, you will eventually succeed.

The Miracle Prayer

Lord Jesus, I come before Thee, just as I am, I am sorry for my sins, I repent of my sins, please forgive me. In Thy Name, I forgive all others for what they have done against me. I renounce Satan, the evil spirits and all their works. I give Thee my entire self, Lord Jesus, I accept Thee as my Lord God and Savior. Heal me, change me, strengthen me in body, soul, and spirit. Come Lord Jesus, cover me with Thy Precious Blood, and fill me with Thy Holy Spirit, I love Thee Lord Jesus, I praise Thee Lord Jesus, I thank Thee Jesus, I shall follow Thee every day of my life. Amen. Mary, My Mother, Queen of Peace, all the Angels and Saints, please help me. Amen.

Would you like to give hope to a hopeless soul? Do you want to demonstrate that God always hears your prayers as long as you have faith? Do you tend to gush about what lurks in your heart or make pronouncements about your festering pain or never-ending frustration?

Good leader

To lead one not only must have leadership skills and charisma, but also must be able to listen, understand, reserve patience, devote time for others, and simply live up to his or her teachings and preaching. These require such skills as compassion and empathy. True leadership should be shown not by beautiful and empty words, but by actions and examples. For example, if a spiritual leader talks about God and teaches people how to live to please God, when people come to him or her with problems and the leader cannot understand them and is unwilling to listen to them, who will follow these leaders or believe to what they teach?

When you follow God’s path and proceed to praise the Lord but forget the most important matter that God expects from you (namely, compassion and love toward others), you do things your own way and this will not please the Lord.

Therefore, to distinguish a good leader from a false one, look at his or her behavior, lifestyle, and their deeds for others. By communicating, asking questions, and serving them, you may witness what they are made of. Jesus Christ was a true leader who showed his love by forgiving others, possessing patience, listening to people’s problems, and healing. He showed his love with his actions toward humanity and died on the cross for us. 

Mother Teresa was the power behind missionaries of charities, who run hospices and homes for people with HIV/AIDS, leprosy, and tuberculosis. I am certain that these activities require leadership skills such as organizing, planning, control, delegating, timing, and motivating. Her focus was not limited to prayers and praising the Lord because she knew that was not the only matter that God expected from her. Her goal was both to please God and to help humans by eradicating poverty and showing compassion toward others. She showed her love to the Lord by helping the poor and sick and being a mother figure to many. She was a leader that I ADMIRE and one day I aspire to live up to her charity!

Currently, the world is full of false leaders who wear the masks of charmers, good priests, and spiritual leaders. However, if you look deeply into their lives, you may become shocked. Some priests are child molesters and sports coaches in high schools preying on the kids. Politicians are increasingly involved in sex scandals or fraudulent activities and take bribes. Others walk around praising the Lord and talking about love, but do not care for you! I may sound judgmental, but I cannot close my eyes to these facts. Thus, do not come and ask me if I admire any current leaders. I do not!